Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It go

What Would Your Life Be Like If You Simply Let Go of Control?

At work, they oversee every detail of every project and expect nothing less thanperfection from their coworkers.

At home, they obsess over finding the "right" person. Then, they criticize their lover or spouse for doingeverything wrong.

As parents, they practice zero tolerance for their children's preferred studypractices, choice of friends, dress choices, and differing life views.

Sound familiar? Everyone knows the type:micromanagers, nitpickers, and domestic despots. Yet, most people fail to recognize the signs of acompulsion to control in themselves--or realize the toll of their behavior ontheir career, their family, their friendships, and their own happiness.

In Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go (Ebb and Flow Press, 2011) Daniel Miller pinpoints the dangersof excessive control. What'smore, he shows those who feel the pressure to control how to break free andreap unexpected gifts.

Sharing his journey of transformation, Miller reveals what happened when he finallydecided to "surrender": his blinders fell away, new opportunities emerged, andhe experienced unprecedented, profound inner peace.

Drawing on psychological insights, spiritual wisdom, and the real-life stories ofacknowledged "control freaks," Losing Control, Finding Serenityguides readers through an honest inventory of their control patterns--whetherprodding, cajoling, withdrawing, playing the martyr, or intimidating--down tothe roots. As most controllerswill discover, their compulsion to control is provoked by deep-seated fear, anxieties,and insecurities, then aggravated by anger and resentments.

Filled with enlightening true stories, Losing Control, Finding Serenity
givesreaders the knowledge, the courage, the strategies, and the "decontrol" tools to:

*Identify and overcome the control triggers of fear, anger, and resentment.
*Reduce co-dependency

*Become a less domineering parent, build a family democracy, and reduce the struggleswith children.

*Find and keep the right person by accepting who he or she is rather than trying tochange their romantic partner.

*Free your creative flow and process.

*Delegate to and trust coworkers to reap increases in productivity, efficiency, and jobsatisfaction--and reduce conflict and dissension.

*Learn to be patient and calmly accept "what is," even when adversity strikes, to enjoy a more fulfilling and serene life.

In a chaotic, unpredictable world that's frequently beyond anyone's control, Losing Control, Finding Serenity offers welcome encouragement and validationfor going with the flow of life as it is: an ongoing, every changing mystery.

Find out how losing control really means gaining control.