Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us And How to Let It Go
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At work, they oversee every detail of every project and expect nothing less than perfection from their coworkers.
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At home, they obsess over finding the "right" person. Then, they criticize their lover or spouse for doingeverything wrong.
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As parents, they practice zero tolerance for their children's preferred studypractices, choice of friends, dress choices, and differing life views.
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Sound familiar? Everyone knows the type:micromanagers, nitpickers, and domestic despots.  Yet, most people fail to recognize the signs of acompulsion to control in themselves--or realize the toll of their behavior ontheir career, their family, their friendships, and their own happiness.
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In Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go (Ebb and Flow Press, 2011) Daniel Miller pinpoints the dangersof excessive control.  What'smore, he shows those who feel the pressure to control how to break free andreap unexpected gifts.
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Sharing his journey of transformation and personal recovery, Miller reveals what happened when he finallydecided to "surrender": his blinders fell away, new opportunities emerged, and he experienced unprecedented, profound inner peace.
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Drawing on psychological insights, spiritual wisdom, and the real-life stories of acknowledged "control freaks," Losing Control, Finding Serenity guides readers through an honest inventory of their control patterns--whetherprodding, cajoling, withdrawing, playing the martyr, or intimidating--down tothe roots. As most controllerswill discover, their compulsion to control is provoked by deep-seated fear, anxieties,and insecurities, then aggravated by anger and resentments.
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Filled with enlightening true stories, Losing Control, Finding Serenity
gives readers the knowledge, the courage, the strategies, and the "decontrol" tools to: